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Do not run from problems, chase solutions

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Don't wish it was easier; wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems; wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom." ~ Jim Rohn Personal Story: Whenever a large fire happens, we are taught to search for the nearest escape. It will allow you to make it out safe with minimal damage done to you as an individual. However, not all fires are large enough to run away from. We may still have the opportunity to put the fire out. Damage may still be present in some areas but you were able to fight the flames and you survived.  In the past, I found myself frantically looking for an exit whenever I was uncomfortable or problems arose (the fire). I did not like the position I was in, and my "solution" was to find a way out so that I wouldn't have to deal with the heat anymore. The issue with this "strategy" is that I was never able to become mentally stronger for the next battle. If my brakes were sounding funn

Remain focused on what's important

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This lady went to her pastor, and she said... Pastor, I won't be attending church anymore. He said, may I ask why... She said I see people on their cell phones during service, some are gossiping, some just ain't living right, they are all just hypocrites... The pastor got silent, and he said, OK... But can I ask you to do something for me before you make your final decision... She said, what's that... He said, take a glass of water and walk around the church 2 times and Don’t let any water fall out the glass. She said, yes I can do that... She came back and said it's done... He asked her 3 questions. 1. Did you see anybody on their phone? 2. Did you see anybody gossiping? 3. Was anybody living wrong? She said I didn't see anything... I was too focused on this glass so the water wouldn't fall.... He told her, when you come to church, you should be just that focused on Jesus so that you won't fall!!! The moral of the story... When you are focused on

Quotes on Giving

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"No one has ever become poor by giving." ~  Anne Frank " The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away your gift. "   ~ Pablo Picasso "You get the best out of others when you give the best of yourself."  ~ Harvey Firestone "Whatever you think people are withholding from you--praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on--give it to them."  ~ Eckhart Tolle " We make a living by what we get, but We make a life by what we give."  ~ Winston Churchill

A Better Healing Process

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Breakups, getting fired, financial worries, legal troubles … the possibilities of what can go wrong and interrupt our peace and joy are endless. However, it happens to everyone, so finding tools to deal with these unavoidable obstacles is essential. Of course the complexity of the situation differs with the gravity of the facts and the perception we have of them, but no matter how unbearable things may seem, we should not let our frustration and despair prevent us from doing all we can to get through these problematic times and come out better on the other side. The principle of division is one of these mechanisms that can enable us to get through difficult times, due to its objective and concrete basis. Basically, it’s up to us to honestly evaluate the situation and to “block off” the areas of our life actually affected by our passing troubles. Going through difficult times does not mean that our entire lives and personality must be ravaged. Even though falling into a

The Self Destruction of Judgement

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We tend to judge ourselves and judge ourselves badly. In our inner dialogue, this voice that speaks to us sometimes says: "I am worthless, I am incapable, I’m not as good as others, etc." More times than not, negative judgments are what occur. These dialogues with ourselves are very harmful, because if we have an inner voice, we also have an inner ear. We are both transmitters and receivers, which amplifies the influence of these thoughts. These judgments are therefore heard by ourselves, which helps to anchor these negative beliefs even more. And what is extremely toxic is self-judgment. When I say to myself "I'm worthless", I put myself in prison and am not coming out. This label I stick on myself is very difficult to get rid of. How to judge oneself? This does not mean, however, that we are forced to judge ourselves positively. Because self-judging in a positive way is equally as unproductive as its counterpart. If you think, "I am the best,&